Through the day as a new bride seemed immense. Everything is spotless and happy. What else could go through the honeymoon, both owned by the world seemed hmm, that’s not just figuratively. Doing things together, spend the night alone in bed, and certainly never bored. Yeah, right?
Now, back to some time before marriage, have you ever given advice or told some things about the wedding by the people closest to – let’s say your parents? Be careful, do not let the advice you receive old-fashioned and no longer even valid.
“Violating the rules of marriage may be one of the best things you can do,” says Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW, psychotherapist as well as the author of Why Did I Marry You Anyway? If you do not believe it, try to see which may be violated rule 9 below.
1. Do not ever sleep in a state of rage
Useless to solve the problem when fatigue and stress, according to Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD: “You have to agree to disagree this time and back again at once took the matter to rest.” Granted, the result is better.
2. Always 100 percent honest
In marriage, honesty “naked” is not always the best policy. For example, “You do not have to share the details past relationships,” explained Barbara. “Later invite comparison. And if you compare, there is always worse. “Essentially, you need to be alert and maintain the feeling of heartfelt pair.
3. Never had a holiday without a partner
Get a nice vacation and spend time alone with their spouse. One problem with this rule, you and your partner may not have the same definition of holiday fun. For example you like the mountains, eh instead he’s delighted to coast. Other Hazards by Dr Elizabeth, your beliefs must always be everything to him, and vice versa. “It’s not real, like in the clouds,” said Dr. Elizabeth.
here’s nothing wrong with you occasionally enjoy a treatment at the spa, while the couple chose mountain climbing with his friends. Believe me; you do not have to be with him.
4. Arguing leads to divorce
Research shows that couples who never fight, they chose to avoid the presumption of conflict-in fact, have a tendency to separate. You have to find ways to argue in a healthy and productive (without blaming each other, shouted, and the like). Barbara added, “We will continue to respect the opinions voiced the opinion of the couple during the conflict into rules that are far better than their mouths shut.”
5. So have kids, they’re the number one priority
“Mostly I see a couple of subordinated the relationship (as husband and wife) that can be a good parent,” Dr. Elizabeth remorse. Relationships come first (and your spouse) is better – not only for both of you but also for children who need to view both parents take control and feel safe and protected to have parents who love each other. “Create time for couples only, when you do not need to talk about bills or the kids, but do enjoy fun activities and togetherness.” Children are going to be okay.